Thursday, September 12, 2013

Kids These Days

I KNOW I have been phoning it in lately on MBB, and I apologize. This school thing has me in a twirl. As soon as I get home from work (which I'm back to full time officially, for the first time since before the kiddos were born), it's slap some dinner on the table, homework times three, and by then, it's usually time to start getting everyone ready for bed. On weekends I have officially become a soccer mom since the kids started playing last weekend, plus I am trying to get more workouts in to get ready for the Foam Fest, in which I am participating with a group of moms in my hood (go Lakewood Land Sharks!) on October 5. OY VEY.

A few weeks back, Scarlett, who has always been a Daddy's girl and makes no bones about it, was in a phase where she really liked to VOCALIZE just which one of us she loved, and who she didn't.

In fact, she was bringing home pictures from school each day that she had drawn of "My Family," which depicted everyone EXCEPT me. One in particular had Tom, the boys, Nana, Aunt Jenny, and three of her cousins. When I asked where Mommy was, she replied, "I didn't have room for you." SHOT THROUGH THE HEART....I can only imagine what her teacher thinks of me.

One morning, while I was combing out her hair before school - a laborious process because she has a lot of curly curly hair that is like a rat's nest after she has slept on it - and which, I might add, her FATHER never touches a comb to, Scarlett said, "I love Daddy. I don't love you." I asked her, "How would you feel if I told you that I loved your brothers but not you?" and she just shrugged, nonplussed. She said it again, and I said, "Okay - I don't want to hear that anymore. I'm done with it, so stop saying it." She looked me in the face and said, "Fine. I will say it in my head. But I will be looking at YOU."


After that incident, things actually have gotten a little better. She has never been as expressive emotionally as the boys, who will voluntarily come up and hug me and say they love me. Really, Scarlett doesn't even do that to Tom, who she loves most of all. Still, I would LOVE to hear from any of you who have a kid like this, and how you handle it. 

I mean, besides sending them to military academy.

Linked here and here.

Tee: ThredUp c/o
Pants: Zara
Shoes/Belt: Target
Necklaces: TJ Maxx, F21
Bracelets: F21



Sarah Summerlin said...

I tried to post yesterday, something happened, and I never got back to it. So here goes:

I FEEL you, Shan. I've got a four-year-old daughter that demonstrates the same blatant favoritism. Totally breaks my heart. Especially since she's a girl. Aren't we supposed to have a special bond?

I wish I had some great trick to share. Not just for your sake. Thanks so much for sharing. I'm thrilled someone else in the world experiences this. Sorry about that.

MerciBlahBlah said...

Sarah - THANK YOU for your comment. I know, realistically, that I am not the only mom to go through this, but I still can't help but feel like a failure of sorts. It is always nice to know someone else out there is experiencing the same thing!!

MummysGotStyle said...

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Lauren @ Style Elixir said...

Love those pants!

Thank you for linking up with Friday's Fab Favorites!

Lauren xx

Trixie Bang Bang said...

I think you had a great response. I would have pulled her hair. So see, you're much much much better than that :)