Friday, February 18, 2011

Fashion/Beauty Friend Friday (FBFF): Body Image

Installment numbah twoooo in FBFF. This one is on body image. Ooooooh, a toughie, especially in the fashion blog world. Thanks again to Katy at ModlyChic for creating and organizing FBFF! 1. Since you started blogging has your image of yourself changed?
I don't know that my image has changed drastically since I started blogging. I have always been a late-bloomer, so to speak, and feel like I kind of grew into my looks the older I got, so that by the time I started really blogging at 38, I had pretty much accepted who I was as a person. It's not to say that I don't have bad days where I just am not happy with the image in the mirror, but overall, I think I am.

2. Are you self-conscious about any aspect of yourself? If so, do you go out of your way to avoid it or do you post it/talk about it anyway?
Oh hells yes. I hate my nose and always have. It's long and pointy and, since I have taken so many pics of myself for the blog, I realize it is also crooked. SOOOO lovely. I don't really do any profile shots because of my nose, and I don't know that I have ever mentioned it on the blog until now, but it's one of the features I have always been most self-conscious of, since some stupid kids called me "ski slope" in grade school.
(See, crooked nose...)

I'm also self-conscious about my belly since having had The Trips, but if you're a reader for any length of time, you know I have decided to get a tummy tuck. It doesn't matter how much exercise I do, or how clean my diet is, or how much I weigh, it will always look saggy without surgery. I AM conscious about how it looks in clothing sometimes, and came to the determination that doing something like surgery is for me if, in the long run, it makes me feel better about myself.
3. Based on how you are feeling now, what do you think the future holds in the evolution of your body image?

Aside from pregnancy, my body has always been pretty consistent in the way it looks. I never gain or lose too much weight. I am also determined not to "go gently into that goodnight," which is why spending time at the gym is imperative for me physically, mentally, and emotionally, not to mention if I didn't stay in shape, I would literally not be able to keep up with my kids! I see how a lifetime of unhealthy eating habits and non-exercise is affecting my own parents now (in their 60s and 70s) and I am DETERMINED to be more active and healthy than they are. I understand there are always certain factors that are genetic and predetermined, but there are also MANY factors that can be controlled by diet and exercise. I fully believe that and wish I could express it to my parents, but I truly believe there is a generation gap between us that will never be bridged in terms of healthy lifestyle.
4. Do you photograph yourself for your blog? If so, how do you feel about the experience when you're having your picture taken? If you choose not to post pictures of yourself, what prompted that decision?

Yes. I take my own photos because I would feel goofy having The Hubs take them for me (not to mention taking and processing them is part of the creative process that I enjoy).
5. What would you want every person who struggles with body image to take to heart?

Probably that as long as you are happy with yourself, it shouldn't matter what ANYONE else thinks of you. Also, I believe that EVERYONE has a "best feature," (physically speaking) whether it is their hair, or their eyes, or legs, etc. I think my legs and my eyes are two of my best features, so I do what I can to play them up. I also believe if you are living your best life, and your lifestyle allows you to do that healthily, so that you can savor and enjoy every single moment, THAT is the most important thing.

(Remember that time I got a shiner from having The Sexy Times with The Hubs? That. was. AWESOME.)



Kelly said...

I love your healthy attitude! You are so right - it's important to stay in shape not only for ourselves, but for our kids as well! Especially you - you have one big mobile bunch! :)

Oh - and you totally have killer legs!!! ;)

Jenny said...

You are the wind beneath my wings Shan! Also that outfit in the last picture is one that I am willing to drive to your house and steal - it's that damn good! Love you, why the eff don't we live closer to one another? Crap!

this free bird said...

I loved reading this for so many reasons. I've seen you in person and you look awesome. I cannot believe you had triplets in that tiny body of yours and woman you have the sickest legs and hair ever.

um, "the sexy times" sent me over the cliff in tears. i'm rolling!!


Carly said...

You are so fabulous and HONEST I really love reading your blog.
You nose is perfect...shut the hell up.
BUT, while we are picking ourselves lips don't match up right, the center of the lip on the bottom lip is a half inch of from meeting the top..DRIVES ME INSANE.
Happy Friday.

Marie a la Mode said...

I can't believe you had triplets either!!! And I like your nose so there!

Cydney said...

Well, your legs are amazeballs. So I'm glad you know it! :) I, too, have always hated my nose and have fixated on it as a flaw; I'm trying to love it. Or at least like it! I think your face is lovely, however. And diz-ang, triplets? Lookin GOOD.
No, that is not me hitting on you, though I can see how you might take it that way.

Thank you for stopping by my blog. Your comment made me smile. :)